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Por-NO! pt.2

Make no mistake, porn is powerful and can lead to addiction very quickly. Scientifically speaking, you get the same rush of dopamine sitting in front of your tablet as you would from using recreational drugs. I wouldn't say I was addicted but it definitely had a hold of me in the days before taking the my Christian faith seriously. I found that I fell on many occasions when in isolation. There was only me and my will power to try and fight the urge and that clearly wasn't strong enough. I needed help. I had to take a deep breath and confess my sins just as the Bible instructs in James 5:16, "Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed." I did just that and I told my wife. You can imagine how daunting that must have been. My dirty little secret was now exposed! What would she think of me? How would it make her feel?

Once again, her response confirmed to me that she was indeed "bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh" as she was able to look past the sinful act and ask what she can do to help? I didn't feel judged, instead I felt empowered at knowing I was no longer tackling this by myself, I had someone I was able to be accountable to and could help relieve the physical temptation in her own way when the time would call for it. Even if my wife hadn’t responded that way, I was willing to deal with it in order to progress forward and break the vicious cycle. Being open and vulnerable about it was the first step. It wasn’t easy, but it was what I knew I needed to do for us. Next week I will tell you about another failsafe I call upon when temptation arises. Here's a clue.... His name starts with 'J'.

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